Sometimes we鈥檙e very hard on ourselves and can鈥檛 forgive our mistakes in certain areas of life. As a result, many of us lack self-esteem and consequently lose sight of life鈥檚 big picture.听
When that happens to me, I often forget that life represents a collection of my good and bad actions鈥攕ort of a balance sheet that keeps track of my deeds, both good and bad. The negative side or the bad deeds are like an open account I have at a store or with a credit card company that keeps track of my purchases and payments. The expectation? Payments must be made by the end of the week or month at the most.听
Our life鈥檚 open account is no different鈥攂ecause we are spiritually brought to account by the end of our physical existence. So when we know this tab is open, and understand that we are going to make many mistakes until we die, then why do we suddenly pick one mistake and become obsessed with it to the extent that we cannot forgive ourselves? Why one, when many could be singled out and made to be the stumbling block on the way of our human journey?
Forgiving others for what they have done is much easier for me than forgiving myself. The听听teachings have a wealth of insight and knowledge on this subject to help us to forgive others鈥攁nd ourselves. But my problem has always been being unable to forgive myself. For whatever reasons, my self-esteem has rarely been high enough to take me to the happier side of self-forgiveness. Even after finding out some great people also felt like me, did not help me with my struggles. But when I read the holy scripture of many different Faiths, they take away some of the pain.
Even the great apostle Paul looked at his past with great regret:听
鈥淔or I am the least of the apostles, who am not worthy to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God.鈥澨�� 1 Corinthians 15:9.
Maybe we need to be reminded that our account with the Creator remains open and not let one mistake stop us from moving on with our lives. He has not given upon us, so why are we writing ourselves off? We will eventually balance our account.听
As a result of doing so many wrong things in my life, I sometimes feel paralyzed, filled with deep regret. This negativity becomes so intense that I find ways not to deal with it, postponing that intense and difficult reckoning to some future time so that hopefully, by then, I am better equipped to face it and deal with it. So when those intense guilt attack moments occur, I repeat this to myself: 鈥淧lease God, put it on my tab.鈥澨�
That way, I buy myself some time to deal with it later鈥攖o pray, to silently ask God for forgiveness, to find the inner strength to resolve to be a better and more spiritual soul.听
By using this method, I have survived many moments of utter despair. It also proved to me that God鈥檚 account with us is very flexible. He is kind because he sees our weaknesses and gives us opportunities to try again. Were it not for His flexibility; we would have had to give up trying.
The 叠补丑补鈥檌 teachings say that the spiritual Writings can wash our consciences clean if we let them:
鈥淣ow hath the Truth appeared, and falsehood fled away; now hath the day dawned and jubilation taken over, wherefore men鈥檚 souls are sanctified, their spirits purged, their hearts rejoiced, their minds purified, their secret thoughts made wholesome, their consciences washed clean, ...鈥澨�撎�
I finally resolved this inner problem later in life, when I made a pilgrimage trip to the Holy Land. There I met a very wise听man听who noticed my troubles when I could not find myself worthy. This wise person asked me if I believed God is forgiving, and I said yes. He said do you think He has forgiven you for the bad things you have done? I said I am sure He has. Then he looked at me with a look of disappointment and said, 鈥渢hen who the heck do you think you are? Are you higher than God? Forgive yourself! He has!鈥澨�
At that moment, my spiritual eye opened for the first time, and I could see my life clearly.
When we occupy our minds and souls obsessively with negative thoughts, we lose sight of the big picture and forget who runs the show. If God has forgiven all your shortcomings, please do yourself a favour and accept it with gratefulness. After all, our lives are God鈥檚 gift to us, and He wants us to live wisely, cheerfully and free from guilt and regrets.
Badi Shams听is a 叠补丑补鈥檌 and a mystic at heart, whose听field of interest is in economics. He has published a compilation "Economics of the Future", and also more recently the book "Economics of the Future Begins Today". He is retired from the educational system. You can read more of Badi's materials on his website听
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