PARK CITY, Utah (AP) 鈥� Angela Patton has devoted her career to listening to the needs of young girls. Over a decade ago, the CEO of the nonprofit and founder of helped start a program in Richmond, Virginia, that created a daddy daughter dance for girls whose fathers are in prison. The 鈥淒ate With Dad鈥� idea wasn鈥檛 hers, however. It came from a 12-year-old Black girl.
The popularity of a 2012 TEDWomen talk about the initiative, which has been viewed over 1 million times, had many filmmakers clamoring to tell the story. But she didn鈥檛 feel anyone was right until Natalie Rae came along.
鈥淣atalie actually made the effort and put the energy in to come to visit with me, to meet the families that I have worked with in the past, and just to learn and be a willing participant,鈥� Patton told The Associated Press during the Sundance Film Festival in January.
The two began an eight-year journey as co-directors to make the documentary 鈥淒aughters,鈥� which follows four young girls as they prepare to reunite with their fathers for a dance in a Washington, D.C., jail. Executive produced by the Sundance-prize winning film is begins streaming on Netflix on Wednesday.
With intimate moments inside the homes of the girls, and glimpses into the intensive 12-week therapy session the fathers participate in prior, 鈥淒aughters鈥� paints a moving and complex portrait of fractured bonds and healing.
鈥淚t was just one of the most powerful stories I had ever come across,鈥� Rae said. 鈥淔or me, it was a beautiful example of what change can happen in the world when we listen to the wisdom of young women. This is a young Black girls鈥� idea, and she knew what her and her father needed.鈥�
In the same spirit, the two filmmakers agreed that they wanted 鈥淒aughters鈥� to be from the girls鈥� perspectives.
鈥淚 am always an advocate for them,鈥� Patton said. 鈥淚 hear them saying that 鈥楳y dad is valuable to me but I鈥檓 really ticked off at him right now.鈥� Or 鈥楳y dad is great, and someone else is trying to tell me that he鈥檚 not and I want you to not see my father as the bad man because he made a poor decision. But he still loves me.鈥� I鈥檓 hearing all of these lived experiences through many girls in the community. I want to see how we can help them.鈥�
Though Patton has for many years worked with Black families in Washington and Richmond, for the film there would have to be another level of trust in establishing close relationships with the girls and their mothers, asking what they needed and were comfortable with and knowing when to turn the cameras on and off.
鈥淵ou have to get to know the families. I come from understanding that in order for us to build trust in the community, I have to co-create with them,鈥� Patton said. 鈥淚鈥檝e been doing it for over 20 years. I kind of got a reputation. ... Sister Angela is what they call me. You know, 鈥楽he鈥檚 got our back. She鈥檚 going to protect us.鈥欌��
Rae was a newcomer to this world, but Patton said that her co-director 鈥渢ook it to the next level鈥� getting to know their subjects and earning their trust.
鈥淭hese are really lifetime relationships,鈥� Rae said. 鈥淢ost of the time we鈥檙e not filming. It鈥檚 going and spending time being invited to see someone at the hospital, going to a birthday party. Aubrey (one of the subjects) and I made her dad a birthday cake one year and got to talk to him on the phone and just told him what it looked like.鈥�
鈥淒aughters鈥� is what some people are calling a 鈥渢hree tissue鈥� movie that is sure to pull at heartstrings. The filmmakers hope that it can also be an agent of change, a powerful example of the importance of visits in which girls can hug their fathers.
鈥淲e really want to show the impact on families and daughters from this system and incarcerated fathers and bring more awareness around the importance around touch visits and family connection,鈥� Rae said.
Patton added: 鈥淚 think there鈥檚 so many things to take away because it鈥檚 a film that just fills your spirit. You cannot leave not thinking that you should do something, even if it鈥檚 just to dial your father鈥檚 number, and just say, 鈥業 love you, dad.鈥欌��
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as part of The Associated Press鈥檚 coverage. It has been updated with details about its Netflix debut.
Lindsey Bahr, The Associated Press
