It's dangerous. It's addictive. Get off your phone.
Kids constantly hear about the downsides of social media , often in the form of dire warnings and commands. But these adults did not grow up with social media themselves.
They didn't get a phone handed to them as toddlers, just to keep them quiet in a restaurant. They didn't join TikTok's predecessor Musica.ly and do silly dances before they even learned to read. They didn't have their schools , their connections to friends and peers relegated to phone and computer screens.
Kids coming of age with social media are forging ahead in a whole new world. And now that they are getting older, they have some advice for their younger peers.
Here鈥檚 what they wish they knew when they first got online.
鈥淵ou don鈥檛 have to share everything鈥�
鈥淚t鈥檚 so easy to look at your friends鈥� stories and feel this feeling of FOMO, of missing out and comparing yourself, like: 鈥極h, my friend just got a new car.鈥� It鈥檚 like this overwhelming sense of comparison. But the things that people post on social media, it鈥檚 just the highlight reel, like the 1% of their life that they want to showcase to other people.鈥�
鈥擝ao Le, 18, a freshman at Vanderbilt University
鈥淒on鈥檛 take it too seriously鈥�
鈥淢y main point of advice would be not to take it too seriously. Be yourself. I feel like what I was exposed to as a 12-year-old was much more limited than what is accessible to 12鈥搚ear-olds nowadays. Younger kids want to be who they idolize. And when the TikTok stars or the social media stars are 20, 18, 16, they鈥檙e going to want to be like them. You鈥檙e getting younger kids that are now obsessing over products and brands, and it鈥檚 just getting really hard to be young. And it shouldn鈥檛 be really hard to be young. You should be enjoying childhood. And we shouldn鈥檛 be rushing to grow up. It鈥檚 OK to be 12. It鈥檚 OK to be young. It鈥檚 OK to enjoy childhood.鈥�
鈥擠oreen Malata, 22, a senior at the University of Maryland
鈥淗ow addictive it is鈥�
鈥淚t seems like it would be really easy to just put your phone down and stop scrolling. But it is not. If there was advice that I could give to my younger self, it would be to tell my parents to set up time limits for me 鈥� even though I would have never said that when I was starting social media. Also, I personally would not let my kid have TikTok. I would try to resist it as long as I could. It鈥檚 so addictive.鈥�
鈥擲ienna Keene, 17, a high school senior in Orinda, California
鈥淭ake a social media detox鈥�
鈥淲hen you first get these apps, it hits you 鈥� like, BOOM, there is so much content. Styles, fashion models. It really impacts you heavily when you first get it, this feeling of: 鈥楬ow do they do it? How do they look like this? How do they get clothes like that?鈥� When you鈥檙e new to social media, these trends can overtake you. I started to use screentime (monitoring) on my phone and limit the amount of time I am on social media. I鈥檝e been taking phone detoxes. On weekends, I鈥檒l take a social media detox for 10 hours or the majority of the day. I鈥檒l hang out with my family, ride my bike. I only have notifications for my messages and workspaces. I don鈥檛 have any notifications on for social media apps.鈥�
鈥擜va Havidic, 18, a high school senior in Broward County, Florida
鈥淵ou are the one in control鈥�
"Often I hear the term 鈥榮ocial media user,鈥� but I felt like I was being used by social media. I had this routine of scrolling mindlessly through TikTok, just scrolling and scrolling and comparing myself to other people. It ultimately really affected my body image, my perception of what was considered beautiful or accepted into society. But the only thing I was getting out of social media was feeling fatigued, or I would feel sad.
"You can use social media to amplify your passions, but in order to do that you need to do a lot of work outside of social media, to discover who you are as a person, what matters to you and what contributions you can make to the world.鈥�
鈥擫ea Nepomuceno, 18, a freshman at George Washington University
鈥淚t鈥檚 a waste of time鈥�
鈥淚 would say just don鈥檛 use it. It鈥檚 kind of a waste of time. You鈥檙e just having conversations about pointless things, random pop culture stuff. It just sucks your time. You鈥檙e not really getting anything out of it, just short-term satisfaction. It鈥檚 kind of meaningless. I know this is kind of outlandish, but I feel like there should be some sort of age limit because I don鈥檛 think children should be on the internet.鈥�
鈥擬ikael Makonnen, 18, a freshman at American University
鈥淎 lot of it is not real鈥�
鈥淎 lot of people make their life artificial so that they鈥檙e perceived in a certain way. And I think going into social media, I wish I knew it is a tool to learn from. There鈥檚 so much information, and you鈥檙e able to learn so much about different things. ... I wish people had that outlook rather than the whole idea of other people viewing you and having to be seen a certain way.鈥�
Nour Mahmoud, 21, a junior at Virginia Commonwealth University
鈥淚t鈥檚 OK to put up boundaries and block someone鈥�
鈥淵ou can鈥檛 scroll on TikTok or look through Instagram without seeing supermodels who have edited their photos and are promoting unrealistic beauty standards. I don鈥檛 want to see these girls who pretend to be fitness influencers but are just promoting an eating disorder like 鈥渂ody checking鈥� on my feed. That is one thing I wish I knew when I started: that it is OK to not want to look at that or want to consume it. It鈥檚 OK to protect yourself and your own body image. Another thing I wish I knew is that not everyone on social media is your friend. When you are young and impressionable and people are reaching out to you, just know that not everyone is as friendly as you think they are.鈥�
鈥擬adeleine Maestre, 18, a freshman at Santa Clara University
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Interviews by Almaz Abedje, Jocelyn Gecker and Barbara Ortutay
The Associated Press
